Wednesday, January 18, 2012

tough love y'all

at what cost should we pampered our little ones?

This question came to me because yesterday, anak jiran yg aku hantar and ambil from school had her watch smashed by a volleyball and got it rosak. By some boy from the boys volleyball team i pressumed.

She wore G-shock that she said cost her sister some rm500 to be bought.
Sometime last year i was toying of buying g-shock color merah myself but this year/tahun 6 student beat me.. thehehehe.. (operative word di sini adalah toying meaning i still does not own one g-shock of any color or of any price, tisk)

Her mom went berserk and asked her to ask the boy for compensation of rm200. since it was not brand new.

it brings shivers to me sambil berpikir, 'kalaulah anak aku yg accidentally terosakkan barang orang, mati mana nak korek cari uwang di awal tahun, banyak tu rm200.'

sambil itu saya nasihatkan dia, not to bring an expensive stuff to school, what ifs, i said..

dia jawab
'alah, saya mmg suka pakai brg mahal cik, henpon saya pun tac skrin mcm acik punya'
'gulp' is all i can say sambil rasa nak nangis sikit-sikit, hehehe..


dunia dah berubah skarang.
masa saya kecil-kecil,
parents teach us not to flaunt.
not to brag.
expensives gifts to be earn by doing chores or by performing in school, sports, etc.

saya ajar anak saya begitu juga.

soraya got her bicycle, because last year she earned number 1 spot in class and in school for 2 ujians and 1 priksa semester. she got kicked to number 5 for year end exam. those kiddos really looking forward for year end exam sebab dpt naik podium amik pressie. I sedih tapi dia tak kisah sgt. i guess it was all bout me not being able to stroke my ego afterall.. hahahaha

min is not in a bad spot either, maintaining top 7(up and down) for the whole school ranking for a year long. but she didnt get anything from us. it is to be earn remember.

last week diorang mrentas desa. My hubby jest that any top 5 spots will be treat to a starbuck outing earning each a cuppa-overpriced-poket nipising coffee. it was a jest for god sake. last year min was number 7, and soraya didnt compete because she was in tahap 1.

they came back with biggie smile on their tanned face and cobaan nak duped i yg they didnt win, and guess what,
min got spot of number 3 and soraya spot of number 8.
and there i was trying to duped them for not asking for starbuck, instead i offered secret recipe cakes or big apple donuts, sebab rasa... what? takkan kekecit nak minum kopi mahai-mahai .. hehe, cheap skate mom i was, hahaha.
but their father being true to janji, bawa mereka minum starbuck juer, maka maknya lebih dri redha kerana cobaan untuk dubed itu kerana tidak mahu membebankan suami si sole-bread winner jua adanya.

tahun depan min will do her upsr.
the janji was going to singapura for a universal studio trip for 5As that is, nothing less nothing less. that's final. (for me, but dunno what's hubby's thinking)
itupun i was thinking yg hubby might do the trip berdua aje ngan min where as me and other adiks stay just to keep the cost sensible.
otherwise, what whould we janji for soraya the year after next year when she do her upsr. the stake will just go higher.

and this G-shock girl, mak dia janjikan dia Ipad.
omaigod.
and she is really, really is a mediocare student.
sorry kiddos, mama tak rasa mama can offer u that.
as much as i love you, and mom's love can go extra lenght to make sure her kiddos bahagia..
pampering blindly is not even in my cv when i applied the job of being yer mom.
this is tough love u guys.

as for doa,
mine goes endless, till i draw my last breath.


7 comments:

nurulhuda said...

terharunya post ni... i can relate dlm context family and the wedding. tak di pamper skrg takpe je. insha-allah, tough love will bring us to achieve more and better :)

yaya, igt tak dulu N nak paksa-rela yaya to make my wedding cake / makan beradap? skrg yaya ada toddler zahra comey. masih sudi ke? niat saya baik taknak nyusahkan jadi kalau xleh, i mtk tlg kekulaan lain/kawan/tempah je ;p

hantumakan said...

k.N - ouuuh, u sweet sweet kezen. as far as i remember it was me who forced u terima diri ini sbagai cake maker/tukang masak adab2, hahahahaaa.. sebab trasa diri ini nak menjadikan family in-laws awak mangsa masakan saya.. hihiiii but u put it that way sgt chumel, awak paksa saya..pffffftttt :)

and yes, i was insane to offer myself, maybe masa tuh blum preggie kot.. saya mintak maaf krana diri ini pasti tidak berkemampuan.. saya akan tolong sesiapa yg awak assign adalah more sensible, sbagai tukang ricih bawang maybe.. sorry ye kezen.. :)

Anonymous said...

huhuhuh... touchingnye entry nih.. I feel u beb, I feel u.. :)

p.jot

hantumakan said...

p.jot - hahahahaaa, budak skang gila ah, kau jadi cikgu sure pening kepala bila bdk dtg skolah with all the expensive stuffs, tul tak?

Aza said...

saya setuju dengan statement anda * sambil angkat tangan*.

kids nowadays are sooooooo spoilt. kecik2 dah pandai demand macam2. the reward system macam masa kita kecik2 tu dah tak berapa laku. :-(

ong pun tengah meng-attempt to meng-instill some tough lovin to the kiddos. harith belum berapa paham the concept, nia lagi lah. but i guess i shouldn't give up just yet, no matter how many times they grumble "MAMA NI ASIK TAKDE DUIT JE NAK BELI TOYS!" everytime we walk out of toys r us. urgh!

hantumakan said...

aza - god, toys r us is like the bane of our life for now.. yg tua pun aka mom and dad kengkadang mengelinja masuk situ, apatah lagi bebudak, hahahaha

Anonymous said...

err,, aku cikgu disiplin.. kalau bawak nanti cekgu amek ( ayat ugutan popular).. keh keh keh..


p.jot